Question:
Firstly he likes me in 'that way', but I definitely do not intend on
pursuing a relationship with him. Before I thought to myself that I
would just ignore him seeing as we had no future together/ nothing in
common (he is a musician, swears a bit and can be quite rude). He always
treats me good though, and although many other girls try to pursue him
he seems to only like me (apologies if I sound arrogant). I think the
reason for this is because he indirectly likes my Islamic qualities
(chastity, honesty, respect my teachers etc.), and lately I have thought
to myself a lot 'he probably wants to be Muslim, but does not know what
Islam is yet'.
I know he grew up in a non religious family, and he's one of those people
who look for a deeper meaning to life (I guess in his case he thought
it was music). So my question is, should I mention Islam to him, and if
so, how do I? e.g. just bring it up in a conversation?
Answer:
Salaam Sis,
Of course da'wah is important in Islam. But I
don't think that it's your responsibility in this situation. You know
that the guy likes you and once you're alone with him Shaytan will
create situations for you to do sin.
Shaytan has already made you think that he likes you for your "chastity,
honesty, respect" etc. This makes your heart draw closer to him. Not
realizing that if you give him da'wah this allows the two of you to be
alone and one thing could lead to another thus your "chastity, honesty,
and respect" will be taken away just like that.
I think you should stay away from him, because if others find out he
likes you, gossiping will start and the first thing you will lose in
those people's mind is your Chastity. Once people will start thinking of
you that way your respect and honesty will go too.
You have more to loss here as a Muslimah than you think.
SOURCE:
Yahoo!Answers: Ramadan:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Arw.NpZ9albwlwus017dnzbty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20120617033939AAMGzwT
Showing posts with label Friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Friends. Show all posts
Saturday, January 5, 2013
Friday, January 4, 2013
How to encourage children to select good friends?
There is no
doubt that the Muslim is influenced by his friend, especially if he loves
his friend dearly, because that love makes him turn a blind eye to his
friend’s sins and errors, and it may lead him to admire him to such an
extent that he begins to imitate him in everything, even the way he walks.
This is something that is seen a great deal but no one can deny it.
Allah says:
“Friends on that Day will be foes one to
another except Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)”
[az-Zukhruf 43:67]
Al-Qurtubi
(may Allah have mercy on him) said:
“Friends on that Day” i.e., the
Day of Resurrection “will be foes one to another” i.e., they will be
enemies to one another and will curse one another “except Al-Muttaqoon
(the pious)” who will be friends in this world and in the Hereafter.
Help your child make positive choices by teaching him the characteristics of good friends:
-Are kind to animals and younger children.
-Are respectful of others.
-Support you and are happy for you when you win a race, get a good grade, or have some other positive happening in your life.
-Avoid gossiping and are loyal to other friends, even when they are not around.
-Follow school rules and do not try to talk you into breaking rules, lying, cheating, stealing, or other activities that can hurt you or others.
-Model these characteristics yourself and encourage others in the household to follow them as well.
-Look for teachable moments to talk about these concepts with your child. For example, if she shares information about other children in her class who were disciplined for bullying, ask her guiding questions about it. Was anyone hurt? Was the victim very upset? What could a good friend do to help the child feel better? What are some ways you could prevent bullying if another child asked you to help them pick on someone else?
-Have your child talk about people they enjoy being with. Ask them what they like about them. What is it about these people that makes them fun to be with?
-Share and exchange stories about others being good friends.
You can teach these ideas to your child in ways appropriate to her age and developmental level.
-Are respectful of others.
-Support you and are happy for you when you win a race, get a good grade, or have some other positive happening in your life.
-Avoid gossiping and are loyal to other friends, even when they are not around.
-Follow school rules and do not try to talk you into breaking rules, lying, cheating, stealing, or other activities that can hurt you or others.
-Model these characteristics yourself and encourage others in the household to follow them as well.
-Look for teachable moments to talk about these concepts with your child. For example, if she shares information about other children in her class who were disciplined for bullying, ask her guiding questions about it. Was anyone hurt? Was the victim very upset? What could a good friend do to help the child feel better? What are some ways you could prevent bullying if another child asked you to help them pick on someone else?
-Have your child talk about people they enjoy being with. Ask them what they like about them. What is it about these people that makes them fun to be with?
-Share and exchange stories about others being good friends.
You can teach these ideas to your child in ways appropriate to her age and developmental level.
-Are respectful of others.
-Support you and are happy for you when you win a race, get a good grade, or have some other positive happening in your life.
-Avoid gossiping and are loyal to other friends, even when they are not around.
-Follow school rules and do not try to talk you into breaking rules, lying, cheating, stealing, or other activities that can hurt you or others.
-Model these characteristics yourself and encourage others in the household to follow them as well.
-Look for teachable moments to talk about these concepts with your child. For example, if she shares information about other children in her class who were disciplined for bullying, ask her guiding questions about it. Was anyone hurt? Was the victim very upset? What could a good friend do to help the child feel better? What are some ways you could prevent bullying if another child asked you to help them pick on someone else?
-Have your child talk about people they enjoy being with. Ask them what they like about them. What is it about these people that makes them fun to be with?
-Share and exchange stories about others being good friends.
You can teach these ideas to your child in ways appropriate to her age and developmental level.
-Support you and are happy for you when you win a race, get a good grade, or have some other positive happening in your life.
-Avoid gossiping and are loyal to other friends, even when they are not around.
-Follow school rules and do not try to talk you into breaking rules, lying, cheating, stealing, or other activities that can hurt you or others.
-Model these characteristics yourself and encourage others in the household to follow them as well.
-Look for teachable moments to talk about these concepts with your child. For example, if she shares information about other children in her class who were disciplined for bullying, ask her guiding questions about it. Was anyone hurt? Was the victim very upset? What could a good friend do to help the child feel better? What are some ways you could prevent bullying if another child asked you to help them pick on someone else?
-Have your child talk about people they enjoy being with. Ask them what they like about them. What is it about these people that makes them fun to be with?
-Share and exchange stories about others being good friends.
You can teach these ideas to your child in ways appropriate to her age and developmental level.
What the
Muslim must do is to keep away from bad companions and choose righteous
friends who will guide him towards what is good and help him to obey his
Lord, may He be exalted. As the saying goes: tell me who your friends are
and I will tell you who you are.
It was
narrated that Abu Moosa al-Ash‘ari (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The
Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
“The
likeness of a good companion and a bad companion is that of one who carries
musk and one who works the bellows. With the carrier of musk, either he will
give you some or you will buy some from him, or you will notice a good smell
from him; as for the one who works the bellows, either he will burn your
clothes or you will notice a bad smell from him.”
Narrated by
al-Bukhaari, 1995; Muslim, 2628
Shaykh ‘Abd
al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Keeping company with
good people is one of the best of deeds that bring one closer to Allah, and
is one of the best means of attaining blessing. On the other hand, keeping
company with bad people such as disbelievers and those who commit sin openly
is not permissible, and is one of the things that lead to a bad end and
cause one to adopt their attitudes and deeds.
What the
believer must do is try hard to keep company with good people and avoid
keeping company with bad people. It is not permissible to obey parents or
others with regard to keeping company with bad people or forsaking good
people, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
“Obedience is only with regard to that which is right and proper.” And he
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “There is no obedience to
any created being if it involves disobedience to the Creator.”
Fataawa Islamiyyah, 4/206, 207
SOURCE:
Islamqa, Fatwa no. 114787
About.com : http://learningdisabilities.about.com/od/socialskills/qt/goodfriends.htm
Monday, March 19, 2012
Two Friends...
“Do Not Love the ones who do not love ALLAH. If they can leave Allah, they can leave you!”
~Imam Ash Shafi’ee - Rahimahullah
Source:
Ya Allah I need your guidance [Facebook]
Monday, October 24, 2011
There are Four Qualities of a GOOD FRIEND:
SOURCE:
https://www.facebook.com/YaAllah.iNeedYourGuidence
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