Allah has mentioned kind treatment of
parents alongside the command to worship Him alone. Allah says:
“And your Lord has
decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents”
[al-Isra’ 17:23]
“Worship Allah and join none with Him (in
worship); and do good to parents…”
[al-Nisa’ 4:36]
This is indicative of the importance of honouring one’s parents and treating them well.
Honouring
one’s parents means obeying them,
respecting them, praying for them, lowering one's voice in their
presence, smiling at them, lowering the wing of humility to them, not
showing
displeasure towards them, striving to serve them, fulfilling their
wishes, consulting them, listening to what they say, not being stubborn
towards
them and respecting their friends both during their lifetime and
after they have died.
That
also includes not travelling without
their permission, not sitting in a place higher than theirs, not
starting to eat before they do, and not showing preference to your wife
or child
over them.
Honouring them also means visiting them,
offering them gifts, thanking them for bringing you up and treating you kindly when you were small and after you grew up.
It
also means striving to reduce the
arguments between them, by offering sincere advice and reminding
them as much as you can, and making excuses to the one who is wronged,
and saying
and doing things to calm them down.
No
matter how your father treats you, you
should follow the good manners described above, so as to avoid
everything that may make him angry or upset, so long as that does not
lead to sin
or disobedience towards Allaah, because the rights of Allaah come
before the rights of other people.
SOURCE:
Islamqa
Fatwa no. 22782
